In training Tai Chi you got to give yourself the time to absorb the principles. Everybody will get it given enough time to practice, reflect, absorb and practice some more.
Everyone gets it in their own way depending on their learning ability. Some get it one way whereas some get it another way.
The important thing is to practice without thinking of winning, beating others, issuing power, thoughts that distract you from learning the principles thoroughly. If you know the principles well the rest will fall into place. If not, then you may have one piece of the puzzle but not another, making your mastery of the art one sided.
When this happens your mind becomes confused as to what the art is about. Then you may find yourself on social media asking or arguing over unnecessary things. Clarity of outlook is what you get when you learn deeply rather than learn widely. The latter can be picked up easily but not the former because the former requires you to invest your time and effort, something which most people are reluctant to do.
I was just telling a student that his pace in playing the form is too fast. But then we don’t want to play the form slowly for the sake of being slow. We end up doing the form slowly because our inability to connect thoroughly demands that we slow down, some more, some more until we can feel the connection and maintain it throughout.
We don’t want to always play the form slowly because at certain levels its counter productive to do so. However, without the slow training our mind cannot feel and cannot permeate through every part of our limbs.
Being aware is a form of mental control. When you are aware of what you are doing you can then really use your intention to control your body. Otherwise, you may think you are using intention but its just a self delusion. The mind requires a prolonged period in immersive awareness training before it can be awakened from its self delusion to see things as they are.
When the cloud of delusion is dispersed then you will see that lineages, styles, forms, etc contribute to the delusion if we are not careful. Thus, it is always useful to apply the “so what?” question to ensure that we don’t fall into mental traps of our own making.